Balance and Personal Growth
My clients often refer to me as a teacher; I love offering the gifts I’ve been given over the course of my life - hard earned insight, experiences and even wisdom. The name I gave my practice is “Inner Balance”, and this is the state in which I believe we all best thrive. Honoring our bodies, minds and spirits, learning to foster respect and self-care so that we can contribute and offer value to others - this is the optimal state. So we gently and respectfully assess where in our lives we need more attention, TLC or nourishment.
Family therapy (and couples therapy) can be a bit like an improv session - the director needs to comfortably handle family dynamics in the office, especially when there are strong personalities and/or intense conditions in the family. I am directive and gentle yet clear in handling the complexities that inevitably arise, and fortunate to have a significant skill set that allows me to pick and choose what is going to be most effective at each turn.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, working with communication and dynamics in families, couples and even work relationships has been a large percentage of my practice over the years. Referencing Myers-Briggs, meta-communication, Gottman's work on communication styles that destroy trust and more and the Recovery Model, I love serving as a guide and translator so that each member of the relationship can see from a deeper, wider perspective and enhance their skill set in responding to the other.
Spiritually Informed Counseling
I have been curious about spirituality for as long as I can remember, and became a legit student of religious studies In college (BA Religious Studies, University of Michigan). I have been an instructor at Institute for Jewish Studies, Palm Springs, CA, Common Ground, MA Center, Theosophical Foundation and Infinity Foundation, Chicago, IL, since that time. I integrate the concepts and cosmologies of a range of spiritual paths - including shamanism, Native American spirituality, Buddhism, Hinduism, Sufi, Christianity and Judaism.
From the standpoints of Transpersonal Psychology and humanistic psychology, one's relationship with one's higher self and creativity are key to an integrated, fulfilled, balanced and nourished life.
Using the 12-step variation on activating a connection with Self (IFS) and a higher self, empowerment is achieved not through CONTROL but through developing a sense of safety and trust. Addictions exist in response to trauma - even subtle, complex trauma buried in the unconscious. This structure is helpful for those who have been stuck or are beginning a journey of holistic recovery.
Holographic Memory Resolution (HMR) is a relatively new alternative to EMDR. Used in conjunction with mindfulness and cognitive behavioral interventions, it is a powerful tool for initiating brain plasticity and re-wiring so that memories lose their terrifying and disruptive charge. I also use Jin Shin Jyutsu, Tara, Somatic work, hypnotherapy, music therapy and guided meditations, as well as bibliotherapy, holistic interventions and references to the addiction model. Recent research in neuropsychology, mindfulness and the stress response has strongly influenced my work.